He got a real job, he committed to her, he took her on romantic dates, he was happy and alive. The short version of this very long conversation is that while he did love and care for me, being with me made him feel like an even bigger loser. Stop expecting please because people are people with their own minds and own bodies. They cheat even if the woman is beautiful or very attentive and loving. Why not stay single and then be free to play the field? I say this because I keep coming across early accounts of US soldiers in WWI and WWII as being considered over-sexed by Euro sub cultures. That kind of person is not a companion – you are a pet to be trained; and to bring her someone on whom to take out her feelings of victim-hood, or inadequacy, or annoyance, or whatever it is she is obsessing about – including you, or your habits, or some molehill about which she has constructed a control freak mountain.
However, in looking back I can understand exactly why it happened.So here is the Men don’t cheat because they’re scumbags or scoundrels.It’s not because they can’t control themselves and oftentimes is not because they no longer desire you.Being cheated on is one of the most painful, shattering experiences, one that I wouldn’t wish upon anyone. You feel betrayed, your trust is destroyed, your self-esteem is ravaged, and you can’t stop questioning what you did wrong and what signs you must have missed.The one thing I wish I had realized a decade ago, when the guy I considered to be the love of my life cheated on me, is that it really had nothing to do with me, it was the result of his own internal issues. The reason I was so confused back then is I didn’t have an understanding of the male psyche, and I didn’t know the internal psychological factors that cause men to cheat.When a woman cheats, it’s usually because her emotional needs are no longer being met—maybe she no longer feels seen or cared for or understood.