The day I came to realise that there is no precedent for this, I started to relax a lot more about it.
Whether you are first or second generation British or just have traditional parents, guess what?
Often in my life, I have found difficulty in trying to satisfy all three strands of my religious and cultural identity, particularly when it came to the opposite sex.
As a British woman, it seemed perfectly natural to want to explore my curiosities and fascinations with the world of boys.
I can identify with Pakistani culture as well as the culture and traditions of the religion I was raised in but; I do enjoy a good whiskey, used to smoke like a chimney, I collect really rubbish songs on vinyl like Bruce Willis’ timeless classic “Respect Yourself”, I love to knit, I make a killer steak and kidney pie and, like many other women in the UK, karaoke bars are also my secret shame.
You may say that I am as western as they come but I am still so proud of my heritage and the culture and tradition my parents brought me up in.
I am a small, loud, brown lady who writes a comedy blog about love, life, dating and relationships and how this entwines with my cultural and religious identity.I also write about interfaith marriage and my very lovely, often comedic, life with my husband “Bob”.I am a British born, Pakistani, Muslim woman and, if you are anything like me, you will know that these are three incredibly complex states of being to juggle in unison and, short of one being a multi-limbed octopus lady, can rarely be satisfied fully at one time.The trouble is, I went to an all girls private school and wasn’t allowed to date when I was younger or even have male friends really.It wasn’t until I was in my teens that I even socialised with boys, at which point, there was quite a lot of ‘stare ahead silently and wide-eyed panic face hoping no one would talk to me’ going on.Dating before marrying my husband taught me compassion and respect for other people.