But flashing possessions or dropping “one time at Princeton” into the conversation too many times just makes you look like an A-hole.
Avoid the pitfall: As a general rule, first-date conversations shouldn’t include talk about anything too superficial unless there’s a good reason for it to come up.
Women today don’t need over-the-top chivalry, but that doesn’t mean you should slack on your manners.
Not the case, says relationship expert April Masini of Ask Giddiness doesn’t read as enthusiasm on a first date—it reads as anxiety, according to psychologist Tracy Thomas, Ph. “You end up sending the message that you’re uncomfortable with yourself, and unable to self-regulate,” Thomas explains.In other words, you look like a nervous wreck and she’s going to bail.Avoid the pitfall: Check yourself before you name-drop—it almost never sounds good, Masini says.As for that story about your buddies’ epic trip to Tijuana, save it for when you get together with them.Or try a beer with a low ABV: Bud Select 55, Miller 64, and Beck’s Premier Light are all under 2.8 percent—and decently tasty. But don’t dive right into the darkest moments of your past. Avoid the pitfall: First, make sure you’re actually ready to date—and not stuck in past relationship drama, says Masini.