If you dress nicely and stand in front of a sign, in a matter of time, someone will come up to you and help you out. Sometime they are a young Japanese female adult who studied abroad; sometimes they are a young, attractive Japanese man who wants to help out a lost foreigner. If not, thank them for their help and follow their directions (and come back a bit later and stand in front of the sign).
I know this because I’ve gotten lost a number of times and have been approached/hit on by a guy trying to help me find my way in this city (and by the way, do I need a tour guide? They’re usually very nice when I politely decline and tell them I’m married.
People who like photography get together and take pictures; writers get together and talk about writing; cooking enthusiasts get together and cook; people who like old movies get together and watch old movies.
“Circle” in Japan refers to a small-not very intense club with semi-loose membership.
I belong to freelance, writing, and social change circles.
Also, funny plug, Ryosuke and I were on national Japanese TV earlier this month. Aikido, Kendo, Karate, and Kyudo martial arts clubs are a great way to meet Japanese people AND learn a lot about the culture.
Sometimes I was waiting for a friend, sometimes I was rushing to make a train connection.
Japanese men will just walk right up to you and start talking.
To increase the chances of being “nanpa-ed,” make lots of eye contact and smile. Take a train together rather than a cab, so you know where you’re going (if you’re going back to his place). A Hobby Circle or Club A hobby circle is basically a club of people with similar interests.
They can be pricey (depending on the sport), but I highly recommend joining a martial arts team.
Members often get together outside of practice (or hang out in between breaks), making it a great way to get closer to a Japanese man you are potentially interested in dating.
I’ve only been hit on once in a HUB – I was ordering a drink at the bar for my husband and I. I have a friend who went on a couple dates with a guy she met at a bar.
The Japanese man just walked up (not subtle at all) and asked if I was at the bar alone. It didn’t work out in the end, but she had a fun time.