Being coy, passive, meek, modest, mild, self-effacing, totally selfless, nurturing, and compliant (“ladylike”) does not guarantee a girl a spouse any more, and is actually a lure for abusive men, which gender complementarians don’t seem to realize – or care about.Being “lady like” also stunts a girl’s ability to become an independent adult.There’s this assumption by these Dobson types – the ones who think little girls should be taught to be “lady like” – that if a female is raised to be a gentle, soft spoken, coy, compliant little thing, that this will attract men to her as she ages, and she will be able to get a husband.
I agree that the culture today is vulgar and coarse, and probably more so than it was in the 1950s.
They are the epitome of femininity and represent wanting to feel beautiful and loved as well as secure.
I don’t think those are very Christian attitudes, to be honest.
If American Christians spent more time actually meeting the emotional and practical needs of other American Christians, instead of ignoring them in favor of pontificating on abortion, the legalization of homosexual marriage, concern about feminism, or on raising funds (for the billionth time) for rice and beans for starving orphans in Africa, maybe more Americans would find being a Christian more rewarding, practical, beneficial, and want to attend church regularly.
I listened to Mefferd interview Dobson concerning his book “How To Raise Girls,” and was completely turned off.