Then he said, “Would you be open to seeing our family therapist with us to help with your job?” I told him there was no way I was going to do that.My hours aren’t terribly long, but it is impossible to schedule anything since I don’t know my schedule in advance, and my health and self-care have taken a beating.I don’t have set hours, so she calls and texts at any time, and I never know when I’m done for the day.• One of my main roles is to work on her book, a memoir about the struggles of being a minority and a woman.When I said I thought it was inappropriate to go see a therapist with my boss and my dad, she said she would write it into my job requirement or put me on probation.
In the months since, my dad has moved in, and they started seeing a couples counselor (Jill constantly threatens to end their relationship).
She said I hadn’t forgotten to do the task from the week before and that it was a deeper issue.
I was literally cornered in her living room, and I could see from my heart rate monitor that I was at 115 bpm, frantically trying not to hyperventilate.
She wants me to be just a personal assistant, but the job responsibilities I have are a lot bigger than that (helping to plan large events and writing for our publications), and tending to her has become a distraction from my work, which I know bothers her.
I try to be polite and helpful, but I have so much stuff to do that it’s hard to remind her to respond to emails, especially when usually she snaps that I should know how to respond myself, even when she needs to review things to give the final okay. When I first started, she’d say she cared more about me being her assistant than dating my dad, and that if she needed to devote more time to making our work relationship better, she’d end things with my dad.